We as individuals, especially as parents, allow ourselves to be handcuffed to things that make us comfortable. Whether it is not eating properly to an unhealthy relationship, it may look nice and "golden” on the outside but it can bring distrust and decay as well as dishonor our spirit.
Alexsandra attests that at one time in her life, she too, was chained with "Golden Handcuffs". Her executive career was a great one, her personal successes look wonderful to any outsider and financially, she was very comfortable by any standard. These were the achievements she felt defined her but they were LIMITING.
Once she was placed in the spotlight, it added to challenges of standing firm in who she was and compounded the work to move forward positively and with meaning. She created a seven step program for herself to take off the handcuffs and make herself UNCOMFORTABLE in order to reach her true calling, to help other Mothers.
Here are the seven steps to free you from your GOLDEN HANDCUFFS:
IDENTIFY - Identify what are the hindrances in your life that keep you locked into your golden handcuffs. Is it an abusive relationship? A skeleton in your closet? Are there people in your family or social circles that keep you “locked in?” Identify these people and situations. What role do you play in perpetuating your own challenges. Be true to yourself and clearly understand where the problems lie.
CLARIFY - Understand where you've been. Understand all the circumstances that surround you and your choices. Understand what you want. Listen to the rhythm of your internal language that has created your current reality. Why are you in this situation? Understand that we have exactly what we want and we have manifested our clearest visions.
UNDERSTAND- What you have already manifested and realize what it is you truly want, without being held down by your golden handcuffs. Is it a job you will actually love without the huge paycheck? Do you want to spend more time with your children and less time with your friends or coworkers? Understand your dreams.
DEFINE-Clearly define challenges, blockages, and dependencies/co-dependencies. Simplify the challenges you may feel are very complicated and write them down. Create your ritual of release (we write them down and light them on fire, put them in a bottle drop it in the ocean, or use lantern release). Be easy with yourself. Letting go is not particularly easy. Take your time and use your soft inner affirmations to gently guide your spirit to acceptance.
REACH-Create a viable new way to reach your goal that is approached from a complete, 360 degree holistic way. Create new language for yourself (Start by removing the two words “But" and "Still".) Track your progress as you speak a new destiny into existence.
COMMIT - Pledge integrity and loyalty to yourself. Create your plan of action to manifest your new goals. Use one of our tools (available for pre-order soon; #MOM vision boards, #MOM bracelets, #MOM workbooks and journals, #MOM affirmations etc…) or create your own! Believe in yourself, you are worth the commitment, your children are worth you committing to your own happiness. Happy parents make happy children.
MANIFEST - Honor how you inherited your golden handcuffs. Recall how you allowed yourself to be handcuff and celebrate that you are now moving forward. Breathe in the freedom. Each day is a new step. Celebrate all of you, while you manifest the best new you. There is no better time to discover your infinite greatness. MOVE WITH PURPOSE
With these seven steps to success, you can unchain yourself from your golden handcuffs and celebrate a life of love, life, happiness and freedom. You deserve the best. Now it is time for you to begin the journey of the true gift of self.
Alexsandra does not just teach the 7 Steps out of the "Golden Handcuffs", she walks the talk. Check back with us in a few weeks with another wonderful success story of a Mom leaving her "Golden Handcuffs" behind. This magnificent mom will be presenting her program "Day Spa For The Spirit" around the globe in 2015-2016. We will be posting cities, countries, and dates in February 2015. Make sure to stop by MotivatingOtherMothers.com for sneak peeks and pre-registration.
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