About a year ago, my first article published was called Control. Alt. Delete. Reboot Your Spirit. The “hard re-boot” of my internal motherboard was extremely hard and dauntingly scary. However, it was the best thing I could’ve done. Through my honesty and willingness to accept myself as less than perfect, using humor and my three-step action plan, I freed myself to live, dream, and hope again. There are still many frustrating days when I find myself slipping back into old habits and self defeating behaviors. It happens to the best of us, all the time. The best thing to do, is refer to a simple action plan with easy steps to remember. As always, I share my steps with many publications and life coaching clients, thebabyspot.ca being one of the most near and dear to my heart. Ever authentic, thebabyspot.ca, the Editor in Chief, and her staff, have supported me and lifted me many times…even when I couldn’t find my own voice. Each day I remember to be grateful for at least three things, my son, my journey, and your support from around the globe. Thank you. Each one of you. You enrich my life and motivate me everyday. Thank you for all the notes and emails. Many bring tears to my eyes. I know you’re out there. Try to remember to enjoy your journey. Believe that everything ALWAYS works toward the greatest good. On tough days remember you can always change the way you experience the events in your life. Control. Alt. Delete. Reboot your spirit, find humor, and give love.
Lovingly,
Alex
Control. Alt. Delete.
www.motivatingothermothers.com
Lovingly,
Alex
Control. Alt. Delete.
www.motivatingothermothers.com
As mothers and fathers, we find ourselves rolling our “tape” when we are around others. From the work setting to social gatherings, we roll a tape of what we are about and the points that we want to get across to the person listening to us. Many times, our “tape” is embellished to drive a point that we are “nice people, powerful people or respected people.” We do this because we want the listener to gage similar feelings about us. When we roll our tape, we are solidifying that our character, whether real or exaggerated, is presented in the best light to illicit whatever validation we need. However, once the meeting is over, we have allowed a listener to think something about us that perhaps is not true and we slowly chip away at not only our moral compass, but our character.
Alexsandra Wright has a great three step method to stop this. Like a computer, we have to control, alt and delete.
Control
The answer to being comfortable in our truth is simple. We have to stop our tape. However, it is the procedure that is hard. Many of us can’t stop rolling out the points we want others to know. Alexsandra asserts that the first step is to CONTROL our words and thoughts.
Alexsandra Wright has a great three step method to stop this. Like a computer, we have to control, alt and delete.
Control
The answer to being comfortable in our truth is simple. We have to stop our tape. However, it is the procedure that is hard. Many of us can’t stop rolling out the points we want others to know. Alexsandra asserts that the first step is to CONTROL our words and thoughts.
“Stopping our tape requires us to really listen to what we are saying. Every word. We must take notice which words we use to soothe or validate ourselves, our actions, our feeling and ultimately, our existence.”
Do you find yourself name dropping? Do you want the listener to know about your powerful job or how you are a much stronger person then you really are? Why do you want them to know these things, especially if it just to get a reaction to make you feel good about yourself, garner sympathy, and position yourself as more powerful than another person? Control yourself from falsely validating.
Alt
Alexsandra’s second step is to Alter your words, thoughts and feelings. She suggests to give yourself some time, whether alone or in a social setting to BE STILL. Think of the words you use to validate yourself. These words will “tingle” a bit according to Alexsandra. Like a slight burn, you know that these words do not feel good and it’s time to give some focus to the problem area. Alexsandra wants you to notice that you are trying to convince someone of something. That someone is not the listener, it’s YOU. Stop right there! Take a deep breath. Instead of saying something in that moment… examine YOUR moment.
Delete
Okay readers, it’s time to purge. Yes, those uncomfortable moments according to Alexsandra are the ones that make us feel that we need to be our biggest and best self. However, seize the opportunity to be your AUTHENTIC self. Say nothing. Be in your moment. Most of all, LET GO of who you think you NEED TO BE and become WHO YOU ARE.
Are you being your authentic self? Leave your story in the comments section below!
Alt
Alexsandra’s second step is to Alter your words, thoughts and feelings. She suggests to give yourself some time, whether alone or in a social setting to BE STILL. Think of the words you use to validate yourself. These words will “tingle” a bit according to Alexsandra. Like a slight burn, you know that these words do not feel good and it’s time to give some focus to the problem area. Alexsandra wants you to notice that you are trying to convince someone of something. That someone is not the listener, it’s YOU. Stop right there! Take a deep breath. Instead of saying something in that moment… examine YOUR moment.
Delete
Okay readers, it’s time to purge. Yes, those uncomfortable moments according to Alexsandra are the ones that make us feel that we need to be our biggest and best self. However, seize the opportunity to be your AUTHENTIC self. Say nothing. Be in your moment. Most of all, LET GO of who you think you NEED TO BE and become WHO YOU ARE.
Are you being your authentic self? Leave your story in the comments section below!
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